With all the media encouragement to take a pass on the holidays with people who disagree politically with you, let me ask: do you ever pause to reflect on civility? What makes you a “civilized person?” Let’s reflect on the concept of civility as a part of Common Sense Civics and Citizenship, especially since the holidays will soon be here.
The Need to Recapture Civility in Our Political Discourse
You might think, “Well, I’m civilized, but that person (or family member) over there is the worst! Just look at how they act and what they say!” So, in your view, you might conclude that a civilized person acts and talks a certain way. They are courteous. They don’t have a “hot button.” That is, they don’t immediately ignite if you say something with which they disagree. Dare I say that a civilized person is tolerant, especially in times like these? They agree to disagree agreeably. Does that describe you? Do you hold your cool? Ask yourself, “Whose mind have I ever changed by my anger?” Oh, the other person may be polite on the outside, but they’re seething on the inside. Eventually, that anger leads to an explosion of bitterness and broken relationships if left unchecked.
Defining Civility Where There Are Political Differences
A civilized person is a courteous citizen. They are tolerant in listening to a different viewpoint without forsaking their values and beliefs. The result is a mature exchange of ideas. A civilized person never gives up their deeply held convictions under pressure. (Never give up your deeply held beliefs under pressure). They are polite, resolute, and unwavering but cool as a cucumber under fire. Does that describe you and me?
Embracing Civility Where There Are Political Differences
Somewhere along the way, Americans have forgotten how to have conviction without tearing apart relationships. Yes, I know. It’s easy to point to the usual suspects. We can only control the two feet we stand on. Civil people know how to conduct themselves in a crisis under pressure. They don’t point fingers. Instead, they look at a situation, and as I’ve said before, they know when to hold ‘em and when to fold ‘em. Does this describe you and me?
The holidays are coming. Tensions are high. Uncertainty is rampant. Real Americans lead the way, not follow the crowd. We need civilized people now more than ever. How will you navigate these uncertain times with civility?
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